by Michael Wilkinson. This post was written by my friend the 'Barbell Ninja', Michael Wilkinson. Mike is an accomplished weight lifter, a Navy veteran, and a badass CrossFitter. He currently lives in Raleigh NC where is completing his undergraduate degree at NC State and has recently been awarded a graduate level research project looking at performance and perception of weightlifters.
“Fear kills more dreams than failure ever could.”
That quote must be the realest shit of all time. I see people do this every day in nearly every situation— in school, the gym, whatever. They won’t take a class they’d enjoy because it might be too hard, or try a new sport because they think they won’t be good enough, or add another few kilos to the bar because their last lift was, “pretty heavy”. What are we afraid of? People let fear defeat them before failure even gets the chance.
I get it, I really do. Things can be very daunting. What if you did go for it? What if you went after your dreams with everything you had, and you still failed? Maybe you have failed in the past and the feeling stung so much that you never wanted to go at it again.
So here’s the real curve ball: The truth is, far better men and women than you or I have tried and failed at the same things. So if you’re hesitation is that you are worried about looking foolish to others, that distinction has already been taken. Join the ranks of those who dared greatly and take your turn ‘at bat’.
And here’s the other kicker: When its over, we all end up in the same place. We’re all going to be pushing up daisies. So with that said, let me challenge you. Since our fates are ultimately sealed, instead of asking yourself, “why take the chance” or “why take a risk”, ask yourself, “why not?!” What do we have to lose? What if you gambled on that one-in-a-million chance, and succeeded? Wouldn’t that success be worth putting all the risk, and fear, and anxiety to good use? Remember, we are ALL going down. Let’s go down swinging.
Back to my original question: What if you gave everything you had, and you still failed? Here’s the answer, and it’s simpler than you think. If what you seek doesn’t manifest itself today, chances are that you’ll get another ‘attempt’ tomorrow. The sun is going to come up again, and you will have the opportunity to get after it again, and again, and again. After all, don't you want to be a part of that sunrise?
Oh, by the way—ask that pretty girl out on a date. Same rules apply.